Career and mom guilt?

Question

Any mama's on here full time employees? I work full time for a gov contracting firm. It's a high pressure, fast pace, and a progressive career. Its rewarding and pays well. I am the breadwinner of our home and able to provide for my family and afford everything we need plus more. I work from home due to Covid and they're extending mandatory telework until September but who knows because they have been extending madatory telework since the beginning of the year. I also watch my 17 month old full time at home. I haven't thought about daycare because the cost is insanely high for us at the moment and in all honesty I enjoy having him home with me. I am feeling so much guilt between my job and being a SAHM at the same time. It sounds good to be making money while I'm home and be with my child but it's hard to keep listening to my boss at how much I suck at my job and the guilt I feel leaving my son for a couple hours at a time in front of the TV just so I can attend Zoom and Webex meetings and focus on my job all day. As a result my son might be developmentally delayed because I cannot give him 100% of my time. My boss also has me booked all week next week for "refresher trainings" because I'm not doing good with my work so I'm being micromanaged. I just want to run away and cry 😭💔

Answer

I also have a 17 month old and have been working from home since March 2020 with Sept 2021 return to the office. It’s so hard to be a mom and have a full time job. At least SAHMs get to some sleep at night. Until recently, I watched my daughter during the day and put in 8 hours of work after she went to bed. I was basically working from 8pm-4am and then up again at 8am to repeat. Also attended mandatory meetings during the day. I was emotionally, mentally, physically drained. She’s now in daycare and it has been a game changer. I can finally sleep and am able to work during the daytime.

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I know how hard this can be. I started working from home with our son in March 2020, right when he turned one. I lasted until November 30th when he was 20 months before my husband and I decided that something had to give and I quit. I loved my work, it was a hard decision, but it was the right choice for us. We just couldn’t both keep working until midnight trying to catch up on work time lost while raising our child. 
18 months was about the age that my son just couldn’t deal with me being on calls all day. I had 20-25 hours of conference calls/zoom meetings each week and it just wasn’t fair to him. Once I quit, his language skills started to flourish. I didn’t realize he was falling behind until I was about to dedicate more time to him. I made a good salary, but my husband makes significantly more, so it made sense for me to quit. If it weren’t possible, I would’ve really needed to look into childcare again if I wanted to keep my job as I just couldn’t keep doing both. 
None of this is easy, and none of the options are perfect. You’ve just got to figure out what’s right for your family. If that’s daycare, hiring a nanny, using a babysitter part time, or maybe your partner staying home with baby, whatever works for you all is the best choice you can make. I’m sorry you’re going through this, I hope things get easier over time.

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Thats hard.  Not sure how you do that. When covid first happened i started watching my then 16 month old son and working at that same for three months and it was so hard. I feel like i mostly watched him and couldnt get much work done 😬 We used to have a nanny but once covid happened she stopped coming. We got lucky and both our parents retired last year so now they help watch him.  Do you have family that could help or maybe get a nanny? Usually not as expensive as daycare.

Career and mom guilt?

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