“Heartbroken”, Busy, Or Just Wanted Sex

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It’s been a while since I’ve dated so idk what to make of this situation. My gut is saying he just wanted sex but didn’t want to say that, but I want other perspectives:

I started chatting with this guy from a dating app the end of last month before I went on vacation. We talked pretty consistently before I left then he stopped initiating contact while I was gone (kinda like a “enjoy your vacation, we’ll chat when you get back”) Didn’t talk for a few days until he checked to see if I’d made it back home yet etc.

We met up the week after but with his schedule being so tight from work, school, and training for his competition we only saw each other for like 30 mins, chatting in person at the park before he went to train. Before we met up he brought up looking forward to having sex while dating me, which I told him upfront that seemed to be his focus which he swore wasn’t. I told him then I don’t jump into bed with just anyone and we’d have to get to know each other more before I was comfortable since I’ve been abstinent the last 2 years, and that if he couldn’t handle that then I wasn’t the girl for him. He agreed, said he was fine with that and respected it.

The next week we agree to see each other again and spend time together. We were both pretty busy so I agreed to go see him after he was done with training one day.

It was basically a Netflix and chill scenario which I only agreed to see him if he promised he’d continue to respect that I wanted to wait. He agreed. I get there and of course he wasted no time trying something. Told him I wasn’t there for that and I’d leave if it was that type of party. We finished the movie cuddled on the couch but he said he was heart broken. Kissed me again with no issue before I left and told me to let him know when I made it in. He told me goodnight when I got home and then radio silence the next day.

He normally texts me good morning sweetheart/baby girl every day but I got nothing. So I text him instead and got a dry regular good morning. Much more time in between texts although he was responding. Responses were shorter and we stopped talking midday (which has happened before but he’d just text me later or the next day) No good morning text again (he’s up by 5 to get his day started and will text like 10-11). So this time I just flat out asked if he was mad at me or something and he said “no just heartbroken remember”

I joked with him that he was being a baby and he acted like I said we were never having sex, only just want to wait until I was ready. Didn’t help that my cycle started before I went over either so that would’ve been an issue if I wanted to that night. He just sent a broken heart emoji; then I asked (since we never had the conversation-one of many reasons I wanted to wait) when he’d gotten tested last, the results, and last time he’s been with someone. He only answered that he tested in March and asked “hbu?”. Again, super short texts when before he’d be in full conversation mode.

I commented that he only answered 1 of the questions but attached “lol” to it. Told him no judgement, just want to know the person I’m potentially sharing my body with. Entire day of silence after. He will swear he’s busy all day but I noticed he periodically posts several memes to his Facebook all day, so to me he could’ve made time to answer my texts. I didn’t tell him I saw his fb but I text him back and said I don’t have time for childish games and if he can’t respect that I want to wait that I’ll date someone who will. He responded with “busy day, don’t always have my phone, but that’s fine you can do that”.

Nothing since.

I was waiting to feel out to see if this had any real potential and know what I was dealing with and if I was mentally ready for a fwb again and was gonna suggest we just do the fwb thing since it was obvious he just wanted sex (and I’m super attracted to him too so why not). But then these events unfolded.

Could he really be “hurt”/bruised ego? Busy? (Competition is on the 1st) or didn’t think there’s a snowballs chance in hell we’re going to have sex and just stopped initiating contact/lost interest?

Is it worth reaching out and asking “what happened here?” I asked him why he was “heartbroken” and he never answered that part, so my responses were assuming he just wanted sex and was acting childish as a result of not getting it instead of communicating the issue like an adult.

Any advice?

Thanks ❤️

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