Is this normal OB stuff?

Hales
I am 10 weeks +5days pregnant. 
It seems whenever I have a concern I am sent to the ER by my OB office. First one was due to this lump in my lower right abdomen (which ended up being constipation sorry tmi) then just now I was rear ended and everyone online says they went to their OB to be checked out but when I called mine they said go to emergency. It's hard for me to sit in a waiting room for 4 plus hours and then another 4plus hours when I get into a room. I have a toddler so kinda hard to get away for that long. Is this normal to be sent to the ER so easy?