MIL Acting Weird

Pre-pregnancy I never felt like I had in-law issues beyond normal things that come with trying to integrate families.

My husband and I have been married for a little over 2 years now and are expecting our first.

Because we decided to elope and make our “wedding day” about us (with plans for a huge reception that never happened lol) we caught a little shade from my MIL.

While this has slowly resolved, ever since we found out we were having a baby it has gotten worse! My husband is adopted and my MIL has never conceived so I am extremely understanding and empathetic when it comes to her projecting her wants onto me while trying to respectfully maintain my boundaries.

After so many times of trying to tell me force me to put things she wanted on my registry, guilt trip me about not wanting to know the sex, etc. she eventually just stopped talking to me.

I’m okay with her being on ice because I don’t want to fight with her and would never put my husband in that weird position but other than her wanting to talk about what she wants, she’s been largely unsupportive. She and my husband talk often and I’m sure she asks how I am, etc. but it’s to the point where I wouldn’t know unless I ask.

What I don’t want is her thinking she can treat me as an accessory to my baby once it’s born just bc it’s her grandchild.

My question is, how have you dealt with a standoffish MIL during pregnancy?

P.S. my mom is super supportive and loving so I’m not looking for my MIL to make up for anything I’m lacking on my side of the family

PLEASE comment if you can relate - I’m looking for more relevant shared experiences than support. If you have a perfect MIL, I’m jealous and I honestly don’t wanna hear about it lol ❤️