Has your family ever treated you different when you started making more money?

My family growing up was very close. We were all broke growing up. Electricity being shut off sometimes, sometimes the only thing to eat were cans of corn or ramen - never being able to buy a lot of groceries at once or nice clothes. From teens to early adulthood we all continued to be close. Until I was in my early twenties and got a new job that was several times over what I ever made before.

I’m not a millionaire by any means, but I would say around upper middle class. It’s been a few years since I started change in my career and my life has changed drastically. I also have a partner and 2 kids that I solely support. I was able to build a home, buy a new car, travel, etc. since my bump in lifestyle I have always done my best to be generous with my family, I never changed my personality and always hung out with them every other weekend like before. I always buy them nice gifts and help them out financially if they need it, give those without cars rides wherever they need to go - sometimes spending hours of my days free driving them around.

After a few months comments started to be made, asking how much I make (never told them), asking for more money or bigger gifts and then also being mad when I gave them for “outdoing them” even if they asked for those things. Some of them only talking to me when they need something. Snide comments about the car and house and clothes I wear and how it doesn’t matter if they don’t pay me back because I “can afford to lose it.”

I am sad to think how different they treat me now vs. before when I was also broke and my partner and kids and I were on food stamps. I never rub things in their face. I only talk about my traveling if they see a picture or souvenir in my house and ask about it, or if they want to see me and I’ll be gone. This has caused a big rift down the middle of my family that used to be so close, and now half of them refuse to come over to my house for holidays (I end up hosting a lot of them now due to others not being able to afford the amount of food, space for others to stay, etc.)

They don’t want to see me for Mother’s Day because “you would probably want to go to some fancy restaurant, we can only afford to order a pizza. I doubt you’d want to do that.” I told them I don’t care what we do or what we eat, I love pizza I just want to see everyone. They still are making excuses and making comments about me and my lifestyle.

Have you ever experienced this? What do I do?