I am divorced with three children and I rekindled an old relationship was an ex from before I was married. We are over the moon happy together and everything seemed to be going well. He has a daughter from a previous relationship and the child’s mother does not know about our relationship. He does not want to tell her for fear of her probing more deeply into his personal life. At first I was willing to roll with the punches and let him do what he needed to do in his own time. However the daughters mother has recently began requesting that he spends Sundays having dinner with her & The baby. She complains he spends too much time away from her place and doesn’t want to spend more time with the child of this year. After phone calls started coming in in the wee hours of the morning I made my feelings known about my distaste about the situation. Because I am supposed to be relocating to the DC metro area having sold my home I am nervous about the interaction between the two of them upsetting my pregnancy and ultimately, the relationship. Our families are very close and we have known each other for over 20 years we both have a future in the past and have been doing well since we have been back together. We had an uncomfortable conversation on Saturday and which I let him know that if things didn’t improve, As far as putting my feelings first and allowing me to be vocal about things that bother me without accusations of manipulation that I would not be moving to Washington. The next day, which was yesterday, Mother’s Day I did not receive a call or text all day.  I’m sad, anxious, bordering on depression, confused, bewildered, overwhelmed, disappointed but not mad. The housing market in the neighborhood is crazy, as it is in most places which worked out for the better when I sold my house last month, however now that I’m looking for a new home I am looking at having to overpay. In combination with that I’m having a hard time finding a job in that area. I just found out four days ago that my contract had been extended with my current job and I would be getting a $4000 raise. I don’t think it’s a good idea to relocate up there if the level of toxicity is going to remain at the current level. Thoughts?