Self-righteous husband

Update: I told how how what he said hurt my feelings and he said he was sorry. He said that he didn’t mean for it to come off the way it did. That he just wanted to be a good husband and was looking out for me.

Tonight I was trying to make a dessert for a lunch at our church tomorrow. My husband was making some random meals for us to have the next couple of days. I’ve been busy with our baby and haven’t had time to make from scratch meals like he likes me to.

Anyways, I was telling him what tomorrow’s lunch theme was. I made a comment about how I bet this one girl at church Stacy was going to bring a certain food. (The back story, this particular food is an authentic one that no one had had before at our tiny church until I made it a couple years ago. Then one day Stacy told me how our Preacher had asked her to make her famous “such and such”. I always joked with my husband about how it was odd but never ever said anything to anyone but him about it.)

So my husband says “I can’t comment either way on it” and I said “I should ask for the recipe” and laughed. We’ve done this countless times and I’ve always made light when saying it. Our son needed a bath so my husband left the room to get the bath ready I thought. Then he comes back in the kitchen and goes “uuuugggghhhhh” and I looked at him worried that something was wrong with the bath (it’s a new tub). I asked what’s wrong and he says “I’m just annoyed!” And I then say quietly “oh no. What did I do?” And he says “you know I hate that! You can’t gossip like that! Especially when someone just got kick out of the church for gossip!!” I didn’t think I was gossiping because it’s been a kind of joke between us. I’ve never said anything to anyone else about it. So I told him “you’re right” and he kept talking to me about it saying I should know better. He’s the only one I can’t talk to about it. I don’t go anywhere or see anyone beside my brother who visits once a week. I don’t have any close girlfriends.

He always seems to be getting upset with me about church. Either I don’t read my Bible enough or I don’t know enough of it. He’s read it cover to cover. He studies it all the time. I have a 6 month old son and I don’t have time. We’re born again Christians since (2016). I’m not as interested in studying my Bible all the time like him and I feel like he holds it against me. Him and his mom have conversations at length and if I try to join in they make me feel dumb.

I feel like I’m constantly on eggshells with him. He wants this great Christian marriage and I’m trying my best but you can’t make anyone more christian then they can be.

To add: the food she brings isn’t something she’s always brought but something I originally made and our preacher thought it was her and she never corrected him. I joke about it because she took credit for something of mine knowing full well it was a dish that people looked forward to having because it’s authentic and made from scratch.

Another add: besides this he’s a great husband. Been married 13 years and I love him so much. It just been the last two.