Touches Himself All the Time...

I'm sorry if this is TMI... I have an unromantic, unsatisfying sex life with my boyfriend. He doesn't even let me kiss him, he just turns his head away. We love each other but... his libido is non-existent or he hides it from me. I'm 32 and I am feeling more desirous than ever...

When a 47 year old man touches and massages his penis (while sitting on the couch, when he is trying to fall asleep...) and it isn't masturbation as you might be imagining. It's gentle rubbing and squeezing. When I am amorous with him and trying to get his attention, he looks away, or starts looking on his phone (he reads online books every night before bed). Is he suppressing his desire?

I don't know what to do.