Easy to moan/groan & talk during sex? Assist me then!!!

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Bestiessss!!! Okay so, I know a lot has to do with confidence, how comfortable you are, and how good it is. &’ I’m the type that lovveesss to hear my man moaning and TALKING TO ME🥇. But he loves the same thing, but I just do moans that absolutely have to come out , it’s all in my mind and I can’t get over it 😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩 I don’t think I like how I sound, I mean i sound normal but I just don’t wanna be awkward even tho I know it’s not cause it’s SEX😩 I need a fellow bestie to show me how to just open up when it comes to this and just let it out, cause I be cursing and going thru it in my mind, I just feel like I sound dumb when I let it out 🤣 make sense?

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Okay this is a lot, so be prepared for my unsolicited advice, lol.
It really does come down to how comfortable you are with the person over everything else. If they are into you and they enjoy dirty talk, it may be a kind of security to them, as hearing those auditory cues is often a form of encouragement for people. I think dirty talk can make a lot of people feel vulnerable, so it’s important to feel secure with the person you are having the exchange with. I used to write “smut” scenes for various projects, and I learned a lot of dirty talk to write those scenes. Every guy that knew about my writing that I had been with in the past pressured me to dirty talk in the bedroom, and instead it had the opposite effect. I got even more quiet and shy in the bedroom because I didn’t feel ready to share that with them yet. 
Fast forward to my current partner. He makes me feel safer than anything has before and I trust him immensely. Our first hook up, I was quiet. After he made a comment about how quiet I was, and he made it clear that it turns him on when he can hear me because it lets him know he is doing the right thing to pleasure me, I started to just incorporate the smallest noises and phrases into things and it turned me on even more to see how crazy it was driving him. Now he gives me ideas for scenes 😉
Start slow, ease into it. You can even start with one word, their name. The first time I even whispered my mans name while we were having sex, he did a moan/whimper that was so hot, it empowered me to keep speaking up. After he told me how hot it was, and he would do anything just to hear that one word. Boom. He is worshiping you and you are still going at a slow pace that you are in control of. Then you can slowly lengthen the phrases: “that’s so hot”, “right there”, ect. Keep adding until you are at a place you are comfortable with. Each time he hears something new, he will go wild. If he is impatient and you aren’t ready, I truly think that you should listen to that and move on. You deserve to feel comfortable, and trust me, the sex is so much better when you are.

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The only thing that matters in that moment is you & your man’s pleasure. It’s not as deep as you think at all. If he didn’t like your voice or moans you’d know by now. Start slow like just say small seductive things then start asking questions & then build it up from there. I started out just moaning with my man now I’m telling him “ cum in this pussy baby “ on the regular & he LOVES it. 😭😭🤣