We’re about to be a family of 6 and already can’t fit in one of our vehicles. If we go somewhere as a family of 5, we either take 2 vehicles or my teen daughters have to cram together in the back seat with my son’s car seat, which isn’t pleasant for anyone. So adding another baby means we won’t be able to go anywhere in one vehicle, I won’t even be able to take all my kids anywhere together alone once baby #4 comes.

We also have only 2 vehicles for 4 driving age people.

I have around $8000 in my savings so I want to get a minivan to use when we need to do stuff as a family. I’ve looked at other vehicles that will fit us all and the price point won’t fit in our budget unless we trade in my car. I think it’s foolish to trade in my fully paid off car when we have two teens that could use it.

I found a decent minivan but asked SO if he could contribute $2000 out of his savings so I could keep the loan short and the payments super minimal. His savings is considerably smaller than mine at the moment (we keep our own accounts) but only because he chose to buy a brand new Mercedes while I was pregnant last time, instead of upgrading to a bigger cheaper vehicle.

My SO thinks it’s a waste of money and definitely doesn’t want a minivan. He says we’ll just continue to take 2 vehicles everywhere. He also won’t allow the teens to drive his suv. Which means I’m still left not being able to transport them all anywhere we need to go together. Or left with no vehicle at all if one of the teens drives somewhere and he’s at work.

He said there is so much else we *need* (had no examples when I asked what though) that it would be dumb to spend the money on a “stupid mini van” 😩😩😩 but that if I insisted I would have to do it myself.

I can still get it with my own money but I feel like it’s totally unfair that I should have to contribute everything, my entire savings and my car, to get a vehicle that will fit all of our kids.

Am I being unreasonable or is he?