My MIL is very passive aggressive. She likes to micro manage everything I do when I’m around and likes to tell me I’m doing things wrong. How do y’all deal with it? I never know if I should say anything or just keep my head down and ignore it. It wouldn’t be so bad but they live less then 5 miles from us and we are over there often... not by my choice but because my husband wants to be over there.

Example of her behavior: I threw my husband a birthday party at their house. (They were more than okay with it) and while I was setting chairs outside she would come behind me and move them inches from where they were set. I was cleaning out her fridge and I had sprayed some cleaner in one of the drawers to let it sit and she comes behind me with a water hose and says “look honey it needs some water so it can soak” (I was doing it wrong)... I was making Jell-O shots and I was either pouring too much or too little. I also got my three nieces to come for the weekend and they are a handful and a few days before they came my MIL said “are you sure you want them here because we are going to be busy” I said yes Dillon(husband) really wants them here! While we were setting up, my nieces were being very needy and my MIL looks at me and says “I told you so. I told you they would be too much to handle” The whole time I kept my mouth shut and never said a word. But she refuses to tell her son what to do and everything he does is right in her eyes. He wanted to cook really early in the day but my MIL wanted to wait... so once my husband was out of her sight she looks at me and says “go tell him to wait to cook... I don’t want to be the one to tell him or upset him”... At that point I was so fed up. And these are just a few of the recent examples. We went over there a few days ago to get something of ours from over there and I was just going to sit in the truck because my dog had been sick and I didn’t want to leave him alone but my husband called and said I was being rude for not getting out and saying hi... So I got out.. and the first thing she says is “I was starting to think you were mad at me because you weren’t getting out of the truck”... I wanted to SCREAM. It had only been FOUR days since I had seen her last.. I can’t stand her right now and I have no idea how to deal with her or this situation. I’m honestly just pissed off. There are moments when she kisses my ass but it’s usually in front of other people and then there are moments when everything I do is wrong and she comes behind me and does it differently. And I mean it’s with almost everything. I never say anything though but should I start? I try to keep the peace for my husband but I’m starting to get more angry and I know if I’m around her she will see my anger. I just don’t know how to navigate the situation.