Bros before Hoes REPOST WITH UPDATES

I am making this just in case people did not see the updates;

My boyfriend has started ditching me for his best friend.

This past weekend, we had made plans for hun to come to my plans for a little Memorial Day dinner, nothing big but he didn’t have plans. I live at home so it would be with my family.

That morning he texts me saying his best friends is throwing a cookout at noon and he’s going.

Keep in mind his best friend is his neighbor, and actually is about 100 feet from his front door, pretty damn close.

In January we had mad plans for his birthday, every year he goes to the state far with his family and he invited me for the weekend.

Yesterday he told me Faster Horses, a music festival like Coachella, is that weekend, and he will be going to that instead with his buddy’s. and no, I was not invited, infact, he said he would probably ditch me if I went.

He’s gone to this festival for a few years and wasn’t planning to go, but two of his friends won tickets, just 2, and theres 6 of them.

He plans to drink all three days and over all it makes me very uncomfortable and feel like I’m second fiddle.

I’m 22, he’s 24, and we have been dating almost 8 months.

I don’t want to tell him he can’t go, it’s his birth weekend and he enjoys it, but the idea of my boyfriend drinking 3 days straight with no contact with me surrounded by a bunch of other drunk people doesn’t sit well with me.

I’ve been cheated on a bunch in the past by exes and yes, that does slightly affect my issues.

Would this bug anyone else?

UPDATE:

I’m going to speak with him tonight, I know he means no malice, he just doesn’t see it as an issue. I know once I bring it up to him we can work through it.

UPDATE:

We talked, he had planned for us to go the following weekend, he had thought he had already told me. We are also going to another fair this month as well. All of a forgiven but not forgotten

UPDATE:

I thought talking to him would make me feel better but it did not. He couldn’t understand that what he did wasn’t really cool. My anxiety about all of this is just at 10. I was hoping with this post people would tell me I was over reacting and it would help me, the opposite haha. All I can do is think about all the terrible things that can happen and he could do, but mostly I feel left out. A bunch of my favorite artists are performing, and I just feel hurt.

EDIT:

The event is July 16-18, his birthday is the 12th.

We have only had big issues like this twice, the other being on Valentine’s Day where we went beer tasting the first day, I hate bear, and the next we did what I wanted, however, he was too hungover to be enjoyable, he just was *there*. We did discuss it and he apologized, and stated I can make all the plans next time. I made the mistake of just agree to go where he wanted and, while I had a lot of fun, it wasn’t quite the weekend I had imagined.

I did know he cares about me a lot, as he even wants me to draw his first tattoo