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I'm crying reading your post, I was in the same situation. I cheated on my boyfriend with my coworker and ended up pregnant. Once I told my mom she flipped and right away said I need to get a abortion. And the my baby's dad would blow up my phone calling me a hoe and all these horrible things and that I needed to get a abortion and if I don't he would take me to court and say that I'm an unfit mother, which I'm not I go to school I work I have a stable home. And also he could take the baby away from me. Everytime I would make a set plan for me and the baby my mom would say that it's impossible I can't do it! Being mentally abused and weak not having no one to talk to about was going on with me I made two abortion appointments and cancelled both of them. My mom flipped on me and I was forced to make another. I made the last one and I got the abortion. I regret that day so much and when I do bring it up my mom flips it and makes it seem like I wanted the abortion! And she also makes little comments how other babies are cute and so on! I can NEVER look at my mom the same! Your boyfriend doesn't have the right to disrespect you he wasn't there to witness it so therefore he doesn't have the right to talk! I totally understand how you feel!
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Me and my boyfriend had planned for a baby in the beginning of March on April 17th I found out i was pregnant. He was happy and I was too. I finally told my family about a week after a found out and no one was happy especially my mother soon after I started to become depressed. my boyfriends family was excited and started planning stuff already. For a whole two weeks straight my mother would call me all kinds of bitches , tell me how im not gonna be shit in life , how im sad and a disappointment in her life , she kicked me out , she would fight me kick me in my stomach , every time I would mention the baby she would tell me i need to get an abortion, she wouldnt let me use the insurance cars for my doctors appointment. Long story short my boyfriend ended up in jail for tickets for a total of 33 days . When my boyfriend went to jail things got 10 times worse with my mother . she set up an appointment and said im not going to have an a baby . I didnt wont to get an abortion but I went and had it at 9 weeks . I was forced , I was weak and hurt , I was mentally and physically abused . Now when I bring up the whole pregnancy to my mother she would say quit bring up that dumb shit or I dont care. When my boyfriend got out and i told him about it he said I did it willingly and stopped talking to me . is it my fault i had an abortion and our baby isn't here ?
My would be due date is coming up in 2 weeks the closer and closer i get to it I become even more depressed . I'm not sure how i will handle the actual day.
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Li
definitely move out
Kr
Wow!! Amazing how mothers can be so disappointing sometimes, I don't get it, but we have to understand we are all humans and make mistakes, but at times we have to learn how to walk away from pain even when it's our own family. If you are gonna live angry it's better to move out till you forgive!
Li
for my boyfriend he just says it out of angry and sadness . He wanted that baby so much I did too , but he planned for it more than myself. I also think it hurts him even more because he wasn't aware of the things that was going on and he just wish he could have changed them. so that he could have his baby and me in a good place .
When someone as close to you as your mother manipulates you emotionally and kicks you in the stomach I can't say that it your fault. You didn't have the support system you needed. Try explaining to your boyfriend. He should understand if he knows what your mom was like. Shouldn't that be illegal for her to kick you in the stomach and take you to a clinic? Forgive yourself. Prayers sent your way.
Li
thanks for your opinion && prayers much needed
Its a rough one, specially when you were choosing to have it.It looks to me that you must take control of your life, as I encourage women to make their decision to abort if they feel to, no one should force you to have one if you don't want to, that's really wrong.There is no way back now, I don't get how a clinic will do that without you being conscious of your decision unless you're waaay too young, but anyways you are the owner of your life, and no one should obligate you to do things, move out, work, be yourself.Your bf must be very hurt, this things can damage deeply, but time and love heals it all.You are your own leader empower yourself!
I went through pretty much the same thing in my early 20s. My parents basically was wanting nothing to do with me. I wasn't going to have any support from my family. I was verbally abused. They had already made the arrangements and set the appointment. I felt like I had no choice. I am now trying to conceive. I'm trying to rely on my faith to get me through.
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