Too tired/stressed to TTC...?

Question

I know there are a lot of moms in this group who have either gotten pregnant or are TTC again. We tried unsuccessfully the last two months but lately our LO (who has always been a handful) has had terrible sleep, terrible tantrums, we both work and are exhausted. My husband, who is a very hands-on father and overall wonderful partner, said we need to take a break from TTC "for a while" because things are too stressful right now, which I get, I'm fried too. But...it takes 10 months to grow a baby and we are going to be 35 😰. Obviously I can't force the issue. I get that we are in a stressful season right now, but I guess I'm just fearful we will have trouble getting pregnant if we wait too long. I also am the one "prepping" to be pregnant both mentally and physically, so it's hard to give up so suddenly. If you made it this far, thanks for listening! Would love to hear if anyone experienced anything similar.

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Personally, I feel like there is always going to be some kind of stressor in life, so we just went for it. I definitely second guessed our decision to start trying when our daughter was only 11 months old, but I figured it would take awhile and we are both older. Much to our surprise, it only took 3 months. We both work full time and are also building a house. It’s chaotic! Being in my third trimester with a tantrum throwing 20 month old is super tough, but I know friends who had 3 and 4 year olds while pregnant and they said it was hard too. So either way, baby #1 isn’t going to make it easy. 😂 Maybe just take this month off if your husband really isn’t ready and revisit it next cycle. But have a conversation with him that life might not get any less stressful for a super long time, regardless of whether or not you have another one on the way. Hang in there hun! 💗

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We are in this situation. We are trying for #3..both work full time as well. We’ve been trying to sneak in times when we can during the day vs at night when we are exhausted. It helped this month but I feel how TTC feels like a full time job..

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There is never a “perfect” time. It took us a year and medication to conceive with our October baby so we were loose with birth control and then surprise we were pregnant with baby 2 when our first was 11 months! We are due in a couple of days. It seems crazy to be going through it all again but we are stoked to have two kids close together in age. It will be wild at first but it always is so.... good luck with whatever you decide.

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I would just say that if you are both stressed, it would be good to wait a while. Covid times are way more stressful than  a lot of us realize.
We had to have our kids back to back due to being in our 40s. If I was younger when we first started having kids I would have preferred a three year age gap.

Too tired/stressed to TTC...?

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