So we don’t really have a lot of options for who our children would go to In an emergency. I have my pick if it was up to me which is my brother and sister in law. Problem is they already have 3 kids under 4 and I don’t feel comfortable asking for that expectation. They’d be taking care of 5 kids under 4. So our main 2 options for now are my parents or my husbands. But here’s my dilemma.

I’m gonna describe each situation:

1. My parents, don’t have as much money. Always made us pay for everything and pay rent to “teach us about money” but really they are horrible with money management and can’t pay their bills sometimes. But they have more of the values I’d like my children to have. My kids wouldn’t be supported in playing sports or activities. Wouldn’t have much provided to them. But they would receive guardians who love people and teach love and acceptance.

2. My in laws are rich. Would provide a good life. But my daughters would probably be snooty and be taught very conservative things. That they are meant to be wives. That people who are not Christian are going to hell. That people who are gay bi trans etc are awful. And I’m just a pretty liberal person and it’s hard for me to choose.

I grew up poor and want them to have better opportunities but also I’m glad my parents taught me I’m worth so much more than being a mom. Even though that’s what I chose. I am much more than that. I love all, I make friends with everyone. Not to mention my in laws are awful to me because I’m a convert in our religion and not born in so I wasn’t perfect before. What would you choose? I’m hoping it’s temporary and we’ll get better arrangements and even better hopefully nothing happens to my husband and i. But dang.