He’s mad cuz I said no to anal

Husband decided that he was going to try to have sex with me even after telling him all day how bad my cramps were from my period being and that so when u reminded his drunk ass of it be then stayed”well good thing God gave you a back door” when I said no I’m not in the mood I don’t feel good and that he got all pissy and started to flip out saying why is it when I want sex you don’t feel good and that and blame it on your period….like I can just decide when j have my period…..i then reminded him the only time we EVER have sex is when he wants to cuz I’m always tuned down cuz he’s too tired working 3 days a week only…..he then continued to bitch at me and tell me how all I fucking do it bitch and complain about shit and I’m lazy since I’m a stay at home mom cuz I do nothing (cuz you know cooking 3 meals a day, going laundry, doing the food shopping and take kids to summer programs is nothing).

Side not we have been together for 18 years married almost 9 years.