Anyone else a stay at home mom with no friends?

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I’ve been crying all day. This will probably sound dumb. I have 2 kids and I stay home while my husband works. My friend was killed in a car accident so I don’t drive, I have a panic attack when I try.
I have no friends. My one friend lives across the country. I have no family but my husband and kids and my dad, my dad is depressed and is always at work and easily snaps at me.
My husvand and I are arguing right now because I just snap at him all the time and I don’t mean to I just feel so lonely.
It feels like no one knows I’m alive but my husband and kids I don’t see people in the world except the grocery store. We can’t afford for me to work because of childcare costs. I’m too afraid to drive for mommy groups.
I just feel so lonely today like I have nothing like sometimes people would be better off without me. I wouldn’t hurt myself but it’s just this heavy thought I have when I’m upset.
Any advice on this period of my life please help.

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I know this may come off as wrong but I am so glad to have come across this post! I truly hope things improve for you but just know you are not alone! I feel you! I have zero & I mean absolutely no friends whatsoever. I was put into foster care at a young age & by the time I was 16 I had a full time job & was on my own 100%. I am married to my high school sweetheart & we are finally expecting our first baby. I work part time from home & only go out to do groceries. I cannot relate 100% to your story but I definitely feel you! It’s hard. It’s lonely & I often feel the same way you described feeling. If you’d like to start chatting I would welcome it with open arms! I may not be able to hang out with you physically but I’d take an online friend & chatting buddy anytime rather than the nobody’s I have now!

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Sorry you are having a hard time. Have you considered therapy for your driving aversion? You deserve to live a full life, not stuck at home forever.
Is there public transportation? Can you walk anywhere? Have your partner drop you off? Make friends online? Make plans for the weekend?

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I'm not a mom but I don't have friends either and I prefer it that way.

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I only have two (real) friends meanwhile my SO has more friends than the average Joe, mostly women. He likes to go out to drink 1-2 times a month with his friends leaving me at home alone with the kids. He tries to say it’s my fault because I don’t have any friends (I’m pretty much traumatized by past friendships and refuse to make new ones). I find it insensitive to not extend the drinking invitation out to me, at the very least. I see where you’re coming from with all the snapping, the only communication you have all day are with tiny humans and you need adult social Interaction but you can’t be snapping at him when he’s done nothing wrong (I should take my own advice on this one). I completely get it. It’s hard. We either have to grow up and make new friends or suffer in silence. :/

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I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, it's hard to be alone all day with your thoughts and having no where to go to let of some steam. People often lash out when they get into a depressive state which forgive me if I'm wrong but sounds like your case. Is there anyway you can talk to your husband? Maybe if you can have a day to yourself when he has a day off work so you can find something that brings Alittle more joy and friends to your life? Just know you are doing nothing wrong and that this is normal. Please try to speak to your husband and remember you are just as important as anyone else. 🥰

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Look up nextdoor.com and see if your neighborhood is on there and set up a walking group with the kids!

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I understand this completely. I have no friends except one and she lives across the country. All the other people we hang out with are guys and there my husband's friends. There's one girl but we aren't close like that bc we are so different. I get the loneliness and I try and go see my sister but some days I don't feel like taking the 45 min drive.

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I’m sure there’s apps now that you could access that links you up with other mums in your area, am sure there’s other mums in your local area that feel exactly the same as how your feeling so that could help with the friends part and also staying locally no need to drive.
I think you should get some sort of grieving therapy for your loss and talk about it.
The husband part will probably improve when you deal with those two areas of your life as you will feel more happier in yourself it will reflect in you home life and relationship

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You might benefit from therapy too Bruno you deal with the trauma of your friend's death. They can do it virtually, most likely, so you wouldn't have to get someone to drive you.
Once you have a better handle on that, try the mom groups. My husband's cousin was dealing with postpartum depression after her second and joining MOPs helped her so much. She's now working for them while still getting to stay home with her kids. It can help you make friends, help your kids with social interaction, and open up new opportunities

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I commend you for being a SAHM. It’s hard. I was a sahm for 4 months and it was really really hard. I’ve never been good with isolation and the only friends I ever see are coworkers. But that’s better than nobody. When I was home, I tried to stay active. Take your kids to a park, a museum, or just outside for awhile. Give them experiences while also breaking up the monotony of your day. Humans are not meant to be isolated. You have to find others to relate to, even just one person outside of your family. Good luck!

Anyone else a stay at home mom with no friends?

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