Should I let what my husband said go?

I’ve been with my husband a long time, high school sweethearts, kids, pets, a home. We’re best friends. I’m a SAHM, he works long hours. We have a baby and one of our pets recently passed, I have just been angry more than usual because of many things.

I will admit I “nag” and “push” my husband a lot. I’m clingy and like reassurance and I often pick at things he does or says that I don’t like. He has asked me to work on this as I usually start arguments by repeating or “nagging” him and bringing up the past and after awhile he snaps back at me.

This happened where we were texting and arguing, I told him I wanted a civil discussion about what we need from the other. He immediately goes in on me and then says “you’re acting like your mother.”

My morher is a POS and he knows this, I got taken away by CPS from her as a kid, she’s always put men first and was horrible to me. I rarely talk to her, every time she visits she belittles my husband and me. He said he’s getting sick of me and I’m constantly belittling him and making rude comments.

This really hurt me as he knows how I feel about her. I texted him it hurt my feelings and he said “you’re doing the same crap she does, you’re not exactly like her. I still love you.”

I asked him not to say it again and he said “ok babe”.

I keep bringing it up because it really hurt me and a long time ago when we were teens he said it out of anger and promised not to say it again.

The problem is, part of me hates to admit I’m afraid I am turning into her because I am so picky and easily get mad at him and everything.

Do I let it go?