Who comes first

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My mom and I had a disagreement and she told me her husband comes before me! This has been since I was little. My step dad use to talk sexual to me, and sexually abuse me but she always took his side! So we always have disagreements about him and she told me he would always come first! And that absolutely hurt me to the core!!!

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There are a lot of reasons to make your husband a priority, but when a child comes to you with allegations of sexual abuse against them, you need to make the child the priority. She should’ve had an investigation conducted. I would highly recommend for you to completely cut off your relationship with both of them.￼

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Kids come first, but you don't ignore your husband (when he's a normal, non pedophile, who's also a good partner and parent)(aka, you're allowed to have a weekend away with just your spouse without being mom shamed/ect) 
But, at the end of the day- your kids do come first. Before anything. It's your job to care for them, love them, protect them, and do your best to do right by them 
Your mom is shit. And I'm sorry you were subjected to that, her, and him. I hope you're doing okay

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In this situation kids come first.

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Oh no! She's one of those! She's the type of woman to always choose a man(her husband) even when they abuse or sexually abuse her children. She's just as bad as him for allowing that shit, cut her dumb ass off!

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Whoever put my husband are big POS, I'm so sorry you went through this my step dad's dad sexually molested me from 9 to 14 and when I told my mom step dad and police at 14 my mom was the only one who believed me a mother even if it would ruin her relationship and get her beat for disagreeing with my step dad should never pick a man of her child it wrong!!!

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That's awful. I'm sorry you went through that.

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Once the kids come they should always come first after that. I’m sorry about what happened to you that’s just a shitty parent right there

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Who put my husband? A man would literally NEVER come before my children I don’t care the circumstances! That’s a person I gave life to how would I ever put someone before them! And being abused by your step dad and your mom not do anything about it shows how much respect she has for you and herself! Then she’s putting this child molester over you? Wow! She’s definitely a POS!

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Your moms a demon in human form

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I hate this question! If you have multiple children, no child comes before the other, you evaluate their needs and prioritize WHAT is important not WHO is important. 
If my daughter wants me to cancel date night with my husband so she can use my car to go to her friends? Husband comes first.
If my child said my husband hurt them, child comes first.
If my husband was attacked by a vicious dog and my child was crying out of fear, husband comes first.
If my child needed their breakfast still and husband was bugging for a coffee he could easily make himself. Child comes first.
BOTH are important. Your mom is garbage.

Who comes first

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