Do you care if your husband watches porn?

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If he feels the need to pay for it, communicate with them (cam or chat), or create a profile to upload his own images etc, then I'd have a HUGE issue. But just watching with zero interaction or payment is fine with me. 
However - a woman on this post did make a great comment about the payment for porn: it helps ensure the consumption of ethical porn. So I can appreciate this approach  - however I'd still have a problem with my man paying our hard earned money (we consider all money as "our" money) on porn. 
We have a 14 year old, a toddler and am pregnant and feel money should not be spent on porn when we have responsibilities and need to pay debts and upgrade our vehicle and move to a bigger house. Priorities! So I'd be pissed if he was spending money on it too.

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I have a problem with it since I believe it becomes an addiction and separates reality from the fantasy. Your husband could end up enjoying that more than he does with you. He might want the fantasy or prefer the way the woman is in the sexual fantasy and compare to your sexual life. That’s the way I see it.

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I don't personally like porn for the following reasons:
1) It makes me VERY uneasy that some those girls could be trafficking victims or women forced to do things they don't want to do.
2) Porn is completely UNREALISTIC (which also explains why a good chuck of men suck at sex/foreplay & have a distorted view of it).
3) Porn addiction is real & has destroyed relationships. The stories are really quite sad.
4)This crowd....."I'd rather he watch porn than cheat" or "Don't be surprised if your man leaves you"...What. In. The. F**kety. F**k. F**k?!!! 
I've expressed to my SO that I don't like it. To the best of my knowledge he doesn't watch porn, but I'm not with him 24/7 either🤷‍♀️. I understand that it's his body and I don't have the right to police him, but he also understands that if it ever gets past "in moderation" & begins to negatively impact or distort our relationship, he's out the door. I'm not dealing with that.

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I watch it sometimes too so I would be a major hypocrite 🤷🏻‍♀️ our boundary with it is that we don’t pay for it - we have more important things to put our $ towards.

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My rule is always that he can watch it when he wants, but if it interferes with his ability to maintain our sex life then it has to stop. I’m 20 weeks pregnant and not always in the mood so I can’t fault him for a little self love 🤣

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I watch it, so nope. It doesn’t bother me a bit.

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I have a history of trauma with it from my father so for me personally it is a big no. My husband understands and I told him very early on that if he watches it or needs to watch it we can't be together. I'm very thankful he respects me and declines.

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Me and my husband will watch it together sometimes by ourselves. I enjoy sex with him but also like that me time to get off too so I can’t judge him when he does the same🤷🏼‍♀️

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When I'm in a relationship, I'll joke around and say shit like "Why watch porn when you have me?" But I really don't care if he watches porn, cause I watch it too 😂

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No spending money on it or communicating with cam girls. My husband also watched a specific category that made me uncomfortable, so we discussed it and it stopped. Outside of that, no.
Have fun 🤣

Do you care if your husband watches porn?

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