I just can’t do this

I cannot handle my daughter. She just turned two and she is constantly upset, fighting us, crying. I was trying to get her dressed putting her pants on and she was pulling them down and not letting me get them up her legs, all my efforts of distracting her had been exhausted so I yanked her up by her arms:,( the look on her face was heart breaking, she grabbed her arm and said “ow” I just can’t handle it anymore. My heart is shattered for what I did. She doesn’t let us change her diaper fights to get clothes on. Falls down and weeps to the floor. I am normally very calm and patient but I can handle her at this age. I feel like the worst parent on the planet. I would take 3 newborns over this age. I literally cannot for any stretch of the imagination handle her right now. The simplest task turns into 30 mins. i haw never felt so hopeless. alll she does is yell no no no. Grabs my hand to pull me everywhere. I can’t sit down for even 2 minutes. She makes me wish I wasn’t a mother. She is currently on the floor rolling and screaming and kicking. All I get done doing is yelling and yelling is my last resort to anything and everything I know y’all are going to tell me to do. Timeout results in her crying till she vomits and then there’s more work for me to do. The internet says don’t punish feelings but her feelings makes me want to not be here anymore. Talking to her does nothing, I don’t know what people mean by just calmly speak to them. She’s 2, she hears nothing I tell her and does the complete opposite to be honest. It’s exhausting, draining all I want to do is sleep in peace. “Being a mother pays off, it’s so rewarding to watch them grow up” but I’m in constant turmoil about everything. Oh her dad accidentally told her to shut up after she had been screaming for 20 mins and I was on the phone for work. Now she’s going to grow up and do drugs and be a bad kid for it. I just can’t do this. I can’t.