Do you expect your partner to tell you what they’re doing/when they’ll be home?

I feel like I am justified in my feelings and probably just want a bit of validation.

Partner plays sport on a Saturday (today).

He leaves early in the morning, probably to hang out with everyone before the game, then plays in the early afternoon, then hangs around again to watch the next game and will usually be home about 4-5pm.

It’s now 8pm, he’s not home and I haven’t heard from him. I know why he’s not home because at 6pm I looked at the clubs Facebook group and they have an event on today which I assume has carried on into the night.

He would have known about this before today and didn’t say anything and hasn’t contacted me at all to say why he’s not home and what he’s doing or where he is.

This happens all the time. And he knows how I feel about it. We have been together 7 years, live together, 2 kids.

I never tell him he can’t go anywhere or do anything, I DO however tell him that I am resentful for the fact that he goes out whenever he wants and does whatever he wants and I never get to do the same. EVER. I also tell him how I find it really disrespectful not to tell me if he’s going to be home late etc and that it bugs me even more because on the very few occasions I have been out without him or the kids he is constantly contacting me, knows exactly where I am, who I’m with and what I’m doing and has even made a point of offering to drive and pick me up which I know is purely so he has some control over it.

So, how would you feel? And even without all the extra details, do you think that couples living together should communicate where they are, what they’re doing and when they’ll be home (approx.)

* note *

- I have not contacted him, mostly due to a past traumatic relationship with an ex who would disappear for days and not answer calls or respond to messages. Unhealthy, I know. But regardless I think the person who is out should be the one to communicate where they are without being asked