Very much unwanted hair cut for my 3 year old

So my daughter was born bald and super blonde. She had dream ash blonde hair that girls would die to naturally have. It took till she was 3 1/2 years old for me to be able to put it in pigtails and had a beautiful slight curl to it. The down side she pretty much had a mullet. The front part of her hair was taking longer to grow in then the back. As the back got longer it didn’t look so bad. People stopped questioning me whether she was a boy or asking if she had cancer (yes they did these things even if she was obviously wearing pink).

My nana is in town for the week baby sitting my daughter so I can go to work because my am out of paid time off due to covid and what not (it’s always something with little ya know). Now I’m limited on baby sitting options in general due to not having siblings or cousins old enough to baby sit, and day care isn’t and option because I go into work too early.

It’s only Tuesday and my nana has a way of rearranging furniture or doing unwanted things without asking. Buying new towels or pots and pans because she thinks the little bit of rust on used cooked ware is not to her tastes (don’t get me wrong that’s nice of her but she gets a little rude about it) pretty much make rude subtle comments but disguises it nice tones or in unrelated conversation.

She kept bringing up about how she gave all the grandkids there first hair cut. Now mind you my daughter is the first great grand baby, bu her hair was absolutely fine and like I said it was finally growing out super long an pretty after baldness and awkward mullet that could now pass as bangs. I would change the subject to “oh are you doing to let nana do pigtails in your hair” and my own mother would change the subject to something to do with me (thanks mom) to detour her from the cutting my daughter’s hair subject. None of us ever gave her the consent to cut her hair, nor we did not say “oh no! Don’t do it” outta politeness. A yes was not given and even my significant other knew that would be a big mistake on my nanas part as I would be pissed.

So I get off work. I cook dinner we all sit and eat, then I give Emma (my daughter) her bath, went to wash her hair and see that THREE FREAKING INCHES is cut from her hair. My nana never said “oh hey I cut her hair” or said “hey I may cut her hair today if that’s ok.” I literally came home and she thought I wouldn’t notice.

It is now at her shoulders and what coulda of passed as bangs is now back to definitely being an awkward mullet, if not a worse one. At first I thought I could no longer put her hair in pigtails or anything girly again. I was livid.

. To me personally to cut my daughter’s hair, especially 3 inches off without my consent is crossing a huge line. And I’m a no drama person. Now I can laugh about it but still wanna cry lmao. Has anyone else every had this happen? I don’t wanna say anything to my nana because I don’t wanna hurt her feelings, nor do I want to ask her about it because I’m afraid she’s gonna be able to tell I’m angry. But I’m freaking livid.

My 3 year old already about rat me out saying “I’ll go tell nana you don’t like my hair, I don’t want you to be sad.” NO child!!! 🤣

Not to mention she started preschool in 2 months and the mullet is back on! 😂 🥺