moving in poll should he pay COMMENTS

Because I can't edit the post I decided to write a new one anwering questions.

Car - I didn't help him pay for his car, he bought it with his own money. I do however pay half of every single bill/maintanance/repair (and gas, which is not cheap in my country). I find this odd too.

A girl asked why didn't he bring his own furniture when he moved. We knew eachother since high school (briefly) and started dating during senior year of college. So, right after we graduated (about 3-5 months of us dating) we rented a place together, first for both of us. That place was also a 1 bedroom apartment, but came fully furnished, so we never had to buy anything, hence why he doesn't own any furniture prior. We lived there for about 2.5 - 3 years. During uni, both of us stayed with our parents as that's the norm in our country. If that makes sense.

No, I don't personally use his car. I mentioned in the other post, but basically I can't even drive it (my licence is for automatic cars only, and his car is a manual), so I only ever use it as a passanger. I don't plan on getting a new licence since they are quite expensive and the process of taking driving lessons again and taking the exam (including attending classes prior etc) is a really long one. I do know how to drive manual, it's just not something I desperately need in order to get the paperwork done. So that's that.

About our bills, yes/no. We always split 50-50% in everything. This past year he covered the majority of the monthly bills for the house, while I covered those for the apartment. But, truth be told, I don't think it's fair. In my country, bills are not that much, and he is the one spending more out of everything (example I do 5 loads of laundry a week for him only, and I can basically fill a single load a week for myself if I wash my clothes with the bedding), he needs *special* internet (fast and whatnot, I'm no expert), while I could've done fine with the basic internet (which is 3x the difference in price). If this makes any sense. Food we buy shared. Like if I was on my own my monthly bills would be way way lower if it makes sense, not because I would be 1 person instead of 2, but of how much thought/planning I put into it, while if he was on his own, his bills would stay 3x higher than mine (about as much as we currently pay). Also you pay for how much you use, it's not a flat rate.

When we move we'll go back to 50-50% on the bills, which again I personally don't think is fair, but what do I know. That's why I posted this in the first place.

Another girl said it's wasteful to just leave the house as it is. It's really not, at least here. You basically have to call all providers and state that the residence will temporarily be empty for x amount of time, and they cancel all your bills, except a small fee for street lights in your area, and plumbing maintenance (it ads up to about 15$ per year).

We plan to move back into the house in about 5-6 years. During this time I will do some small upkeep (like cleaning and check for any mold, pests etc) regularly. I plan on fully cleaning everything and cover the furniture so it doesn't collect any dust.

I guess I don't want to rent it out because as I said it's my childhood family home (4th generation) and the property means a lot to my family. I have never been greedy, a value/moral I have learned from my parents and I don't want to simply profit out of it. True, times like these are tough, but I will get back on my feet eventually.