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Don’t cancel. You got this. How are you going to get your baby if you cancel IVF? This could be the one or could lead you to the path of the one. Baby dust! ✨
In my feelings
A friend of mine told me she's pregnant today. I'm super happy for her, but now I feel the need to cancel our ivf transfer cycle.
We have had 2 early miscarriages, 2 failed transfer cycles, and 2 canceled transfers in the last year. For every single one of those cycles I have a friend due with a baby the month we would have been due. Every. Single. One. It feels like God is giving my babies away to everyone else and it hurts.
So, our transfer is supposed to be the end of this month and now my friend (who miscarried last month) is pregnant again and would be due around the same time we would be due. I can't help but feel like this is my child given away again and an omen of a poor outcome.
But...if we cancel the cycle, that's money lost, meds lost, time lost when we've already been waiting so long.
How do you get past your superstitions?
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Saddly, Not all of God's children make it to this world, invision he's not giving away your child, he's making sure they have a tribe to grow up with, keep trying for this one may well be the one xI know it's hard when others are given what your heart wants so badly, and it's so hard to understand why.. But it just means we'l truly understand how forchinate we are when it works x
That’s been the outcome so far, but it won’t be the outcome forever! It’s the outcome until it’s not basically, and your whole world changes. Keep challenging your doctors to look into why you have had failures in the past and try to keep going when you can. It is okay to take breaks and protect yourself tho, you’ve been through so much. I wish I could give you a big hug. I always feel like I do okay until someone I know announces their pregnancy. People who started trying after us are welcoming their babies into the world and it stings so bad.
It’s really difficult when you are dealing with infertility to hear other people are pregnant. But that is not effecting the outcome of your treatments or pregnancies. Lots of people are pregnant at the same time. Other people’s pregnancies have nothing to do with yours or lack there of. I’m sorry you are going though this, but don’t cancel your transfer. Whether your transfer works or not has absolutely nothing to do with your friend.
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