Husband won't do anything without being asked first?

I can see this being frustrating. I’d sit and have a heart to heart about it though first and address you need him to help a bit more and remember you’re only human too. I do understand where you’re coming from. Sometimes lists help. It can take time for people not use to it to build a proper routine too. My husband and I work really well together with house work but I’ve been in the boat with the kids before and after talking and more structure for us both he helps a lot and carries weight for me now that helps me so much