My first cousin is getting married (a second time due to Covid) and his wife insists on no children at the wedding. She says what she does for one she has to do for the rest of her family/friends. I get that, but my 7wk infant breastfeeds and not bringing her is just not an option. Yes, she does a breast milk bottle once a day but my husband is always the one to feed her. I haven’t left her with anyone yet. I can leave her with my mother in law and have no issue doing that for a short amount of time, but between the ceremony and the reception and the fact that she always gets fussy/gassy at night and really only calms down if I’m holding her, I think leaving her for multiple feedings and during bedtime would be traumatic for her at this point. My issue is this, this chick clearly doesn’t understand that’s there’s a huge difference between a child and newborn baby. Children eat food, my newborn relies on me as her source of food. Her telling me I can’t bring her feels like she’s telling me to basically starve my baby. Im pissed about it…and not going doesn’t feel like an option since I’m really close to this cousin and his parents. We sold him and this b*tch our first home last year at an extremely low/fair price and my husband did all the paperwork so they could forgo a realtor and save more money as well. We insisted on doing it this way and made it out to be part of their wedding gift. We were happy to do this, but for her to turn around and pull this shit just feels like a slap in the face. She’s been rude about a number of things since then, so this just made me boil over. Am I wrong to be so upset about this?

*Edit* You have all pointed out that it’s HER WEDDING. I suppose I am hormonal and extra emotional right now…it definitely is HER wedding and HER choice. I do think I needed a reminder of this, so thank you to everyone.

I did bring it up casually to her to ask if it were ok via text conversation. She said no and referred to other kids she had already said couldn’t come. It did irritate me that she lumped a nursing infant in with children who can actually eat food. There is a significant difference there. My plan was not to bring her to the church as I know if she cried during vows or something important it would be tough and I’d feel awful. The church was closer to home and it logistically would be far easier to enable her for that. Also she has no idea that the baby has ever taken a bottle, the conversation never even got that far. Baby takes one from my husband, sorta but often still needs to nurse afterwards… I know the simple answer is not to go if it’s an issue for me…I’m honestly just bummed to not be able to go to my cousins wedding and was wishing she’d be understanding….