Well, the past few months of my marriage has been hell, super highs and lows. Physical & emotional abuse. Tonight just determined what the future holds for us both and it best for us to separate. It’s so heartbreaking to have our marriage fall apart when we have so much love but not enough to see eye to eye on values.

Long story short, we don’t see eye to eye when it comes to me being a stay at home mom. I never knew that...because he has income that it’s a burden for me to ask for help sometimes, or to ask for a break. He expects me to do it all, and just deal with what comes with being a mom and taking care of a home. On top of no sleep because I breast feed both of our kids during the night. But then expects me to have quality time and have the energy to have sex. He would help me but I never knew he thought he felt he was superior to me because he works. He got upset because I had plans to go out with my family to a local bar for the first time in a long time (I don’t have a lot of friends but my family is always when I have the best time) and it was 8:30 pm. I was about to walk out and he said “what’s for dinner?”I said make whatever you and the kids want. He was so livid. “Why would you not make dinner? It’s 8:30!!” I was running errands from 4:30-7:45 then showered and got ready. I thought my children’s father can handle making a meal for them for once because that’s what parents do and he is a parent. Let me add that he goes out a lot and I don’t complain but he never makes sure things are set before he leaves me with the kids like I do for him. But just this one time I thought he could handle dinner, he says “it’s your JOB do your JOB make sure to make food if you are leaving” “what kind of mom does that”

Hell broke loose for calling me a bad mom. I was yelling broke our vacuum by throwing it. Then, he physically hurt me.

SAHMs what have you done in this situation? Also with not much family close by to help. I need to start over.

My heart is breaking to imagine my little kids wondering why they can’t spend time with mom and dad together. I feel like I failed them.