Hey ladies, I need some advice. I’m sorry if this is all over the place. I’m on strong pain meds.

My fiancé and I have been together for 2 years and have a one year old son and I have 3 year old girl from my previous marriage. Anyway I have a chronic illness which sometimes lands me the hospital for a couple of days. Every time this happen, I’m still always the one who has to manage my household. Where my kids go, when they go and who drives them. I set everything up and make sure everything is good to go for whoever. Sometimes it’s overwhelming. My fiancé just goes to work and then goes home and my family or his help me with the kids while I’m away. He doesn’t keep them overnight either because he can’t put the car seats into his work truck and drop them off somewhere.

So here’s where I’m struggling, because of the extra night I have to spend in the hospital, we had no one available, my mother had guests and his mother was working 4 hours away for the rest of the week. Because of this he decided without me that he would give them to someone I didn’t know personally and when I said no and explained why, he completely dismissed my feelings on how uncomfortable that made me and said I was being ridiculous and that I needed to think rationally. I’m sorry but I don’t want anyone I don’t know watching my kids. I asked if he could take the day off but he refused. His boss would give him shit and he doesn’t want to hear it..

Our kids and I need him but that's not enough of a reason for him it seems. He made me feeling bad about it.

He said a few days ago during another argument "we can't rely on others to take care of our kids 24/7" but it’s ok for him to pass the kids to whoever.. Him throwing that in my face broke me. I felt it was highly hypocritical. I would love to be home and taking care of my kids but I can’t control my illness.

I feel that I can't count on him. I feel his priority's are a little messed up. His job always comes first and he always has a excuse as to why. Unfortunately, I can no longer can try and show him otherwise. It's hurting me too much. It’s the same argument every time. He will always put his job first and our family is second. Am I overreacting? I know my illness can be a burden but I try my hardest to make sure my kids are safe and try to make things easier for him..