I understand some married couples are okay with their partner looking at porn, and that’s fine because that’s the agreement between both people. I’m personally not okay with it for a few reasons, and my husband and I even made the agreement that it’s not okay. HE even went as far as to say he considers it cheating. I now find it funny that he’s now doing it himself. I believe it destroys intimacy in a relationship and creates unrealistic expectations during sex. Or completely kills libido.

He’s been acting weird. No particular reason that I can come up with other than just “weird”. I look at his search history when he’s gone and I find at least five porn sites on his search history. That kinda hurts me. I also see a downloaded app called “IRL”. Some of you probably use it. I’ve never heard of it, and for all I know it’s nothing. So do people go on there to privately chat with others? I’d just like to know, since he’s never mentioned it to me. Plus he’s not one to be on social media. He’s kinda off the grid when it comes to that stuff.

I’m just paranoid and hurt. I’ve always been the one to do his laundry, fold it, pick up after his shit, make dinner, make the grocery lists, do the dishes and clean the piss off his toilet when cleaning the bathrooms. He never does that stuff. That’s all fine so long as he reciprocates by doing his part somehow, but he’s not. I’m just mad.

Please no hate. I’m coming here because, honestly, I don’t want to discuss my marriage with anyone I know personally. I just appreciate being able to anonymously ask for advice on here. I really do love my husband, but I’m not going to act like this never happens to people. Some partners are just amazing liars. I’m also the only woman he’s ever been with, since we stayed together since high school. Sometimes I feel like he regrets never exploring other relationships out there and he’s just bored of me.

Thanks in advance.