Other parents telling me how to parent?

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How do you guys handle this if you have to
My sil is constantly criticizing everything I do and tells me what I should he doing. Like even the brands of diapers I use she tells me I should be using something else: it literally started the day my son came home from the hospital and I stirred his formula instead of shaking it; and now almost three years later she is still criticizing everything I do. The food I give my kids the brand of sunscreen like anything you can think of she has an opinion on 
She had three kids so I guess she is like the mom expert but she’s so annoying with the constant advice that I don’t ask her 
We have very different parenting styles. She screams at her kids curses them out and is very into spanking while I am into more gentle parenting plus my kids are young 1 and 2 years old i can’t even imagine screaming at them to shut the fuck up like what she says to hers. I don’t agree with her parenting but I keep my mouth shut but she has no problem telling me I am too easy going with my kids
Like even today just to give an example I was putting a swim diaper on my son and she was like why dont you use the pull up ones:””.    I was like idk. Then I wrapped my son up in the towel and she comes running over and is like no use the other side of the towel and I was like wtf does it matter but then I’m like oh yea she has to remind me everything I do is wrong. She will literally say something about everything I do and I am always depressed after seeing her which sucks because I see her every weekend. 
I know it sounds so stupid but it’s literally like 20 comments a day and I hate it. I literally do everything wrong and I feel like as my kids get older she’s going to get worse

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Thanks for your advice, I'm going to keep doing what my pediatrician recommends. 
Weather it was recommended by them or not, it shuts most people up. I do it often.

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It's a pain in the neck isn't it! I just try and take a deep breath and told my tongue to keep the piece. But it does my head in! For me it's my mother in law. She's not as bad as your sister but she always has something to say! Most of the time it's the same thing she's said 20 times before. She used to be a child minder so she thinks she knows everything! She seems to forget I've been a teacher for 14 years!
It sounds like you're doing exactly the right thing with your parenting so she can do one!

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Tell her how to parent. Tell her what she is doing wrong. She is likely projecting. I can’t imagine any person wants to scream at their kids like she does. She is being a typical bully. She needs to put someone else down so she can feel better about herself. Only problem is that you are an adult and can give her a taste of her own medicine. Start doing that.

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Yeah you are going to have to firmly but friendly let her know to cut it out :)

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Stop interacting with her?

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You need to have a conversation with her just you and her away from kids and other family members. Be direct and tell her you’re done. If she interrupts insist on being heard.
Give her an ultimatum like less time together if she doesn’t change. Tell her you will help her change gradually by reminding her when she slips up. For some people, it’s just hard to hold their tongue and hard to change. Tell her you know she isn’t intentionally being critical but that you’re done with hearing all of her opinions. Tell her you will ask for her advice if you are interested in or need help.

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You have to lay down the law with her or she will never stop. You don’t have to be nasty about it, just say you appreciate that she’s trying to help but you know what you’re doing and you are comfortable with the decisions you make for your own child.

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Tell her she can parent her way and you’ll parent your way that as long as your children are safe and healthy to keep her mouth shut. Tell her you’ll ask if need some advice. I basically had to tell my mom this years ago when I had custody of a baby boy. Sometimes you just have to be blunt.

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Actually formula being stirred is better than shaken because there is less bubbles which means less gas.. tell her to mind her own kids

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