Feeling defeated, needing to vent

I'm a first time mom and my son is 10 weeks old. I've had maybe 1 or 2 successful nights in his bassinet since he's been born. If I try to lie him down, he will wake up within minutes even when he is very much asleep. Swaddling, white noise, dim lights, baths, warm bottle whatever you could name has been tried and nothing works. And he doesn't do well with other people. I can't even so much as take a shower without him having a full meltdown with my husband. These past few days it's gotten worse and I'm so, so tired. But more importantly, I'm worried about him. I still have about 6 weeks before I go back to work but I will be working at night. So he'll have a sitter during the day for me to sleep and my husband will care for him at night on my work days. But I'm afraid he will spend my work days inconsolable because I'm not around. I know he's still a newborn and this is normal and he may be ok by the time i go back but I feel like I'm doing everything wrong. And it doesn't help when I'm seeing numerous moms talk about how their newborns sleep so well. I just feel so defeated. Like I said i just needed to vent but if anyone has been through anything similar and/or has suggestions I'd appreciate it.