Self-conscious

I have no clue what to do about these razor bumps and ingrowns on my inner thighs and around my vagina. Nothing seems to keep it from reoccurring😩 I exfoliate the crap out of the skin before and after, I’ve switched soaps, I tried witch hazel after shaving, still using it too. I moisturize, sometimes I wait weeks to shave again to give my skin a break. I try warm baths to help with the ingrowns. I have really dark scars in my buttcheeks, I feel soo gross, I don’t know what to do anymore, my boyfriend and I have been together for four and a half years and I don’t like him to see me naked anymore😭