When one partner doesn’t want children

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Anyone out there who feels the pain of wanting more children but the husband says no? I’m crying so hard right now. I feel so helpless and ashamed. Especially because he says he doesn’t FEEL like having more children with me. I don’t want to break my current family and leave this marriage. How do I cope with this constant sadness inside me. It’s like the one thing I cannot do by myself, is have a baby…

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This is a conversation to have, not a decision someone forces on you. And there are many options to consider. You should see a marriage councilor to help navigate how you both feel. This is not uncommon for couples to struggle with.

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Sometimes you have to compromise. I wanted 10, hubby wanted 1. We compromised on 3. My love for him is more important to me that imaginary children. 
You'll have to think about your happiness and see if you can be happy and content with what you have or not.

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It happens sometimes. My husband (married for 8 months, together for a year) does not want to have children. I already have a 7 year old son. I do not argue with my husband, I hope in the future he will change his mind. Here you have to choose a compromise.

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I know tht feeling all too well. Such a hopeless feeling. Eventually he came around and we tried for another baby. Took my 7 years to convince him. Then we lost 4 in a row. 😔 not sure we will try again.

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The part of him not wanting kids with you is something I don’t like. Why would he say this?!? My mind goes into wtf mode when people say things like that it implies too much.
That being said my husband always says no more babies. I always have to be upfront with him about my baby fever because it comes in waves for me. I’ll be 6months pp next week and I’m dying for another. The last of our babies and he is saying no. Which I understand. But he has been open with what he thinks out last kid will be. So there’s hope? But man I’m hormonal and definitely not trying to get pregnant right this moment but I do want another.

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I do not want more and he does. Never had I felt that way until #4. Traumatic birth does that to a person. Is he happy? No but he can’t do much about it until I work through it

When one partner doesn’t want children

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