Husband invalidates me on weekends

This is going to be loooong.

I'm 99% sure I'm over reacting, but come Friday and/ or Saturday I absolutely lose my patience with my husband.

Every Friday, and some Saturdays, he stays and has a drink or two after work. He doesn't stay late, and he'll sometimes bring home dinner if I haven't cooked. He does it to unwind.

The problem with this is that I NEVER unwind. Ever. I co- run a company (still fairly new so I don't bring in a huge amount of money), am in the process of starting up a new one and I pretty much solely take care of the household and our pets. He barely helps, does the bare minimum and I allow this for the most part because he pays for most of our expenses.

But sometimes, just SOMETIMES, I wish he would put me first on a Friday and actually come on on time to give me a break.

This evening we had a huge fight because I specifically asked him is he going to be home on time, he said he's just finishing up with a client, spewed some crap about how much he loves me and I asked him is he saying this because he's drinking and he said NO.

An HOUR later I asked him is he finished yet and he says yes, he's going to get us food. He comes home another 20 minutes later and I can smell that he's been drinking.

His ONLY argument is that he doesn't stay late and that "you don't see how I turn the guys down when they want to stay late". And then he just went off on a tangent about how I didn't even ask about his day (the first time all week), I just fight with him, I don't understand, I'm going to bring out the demon in him, etc.

So I leave the room and he FOLLOWS me and he doesn't leave despite me asking him several times to get out.

He eventually did and was just shouting to himself in the lounge.

But he doesn't get my point. He invalidated me by saying "oh I can just wait and he'll come feed the dogs an hour later than usual". But that's not the case, unless I'm going to be REALLY late he often just waits until I get home to feed them.

He made it sound like I don't do anything and I'm bitching at him for nothing. To give you an example, just what I've done today:

Ironed his work clothes and packed his lunch

Spent over an hour working on some overgrown parts of the garden

Did some work for the first company

Worked a bit on the second company

Went to get meds from the vet for our one dog

Went to go buy some groceries

Spent about an hour working on the pool

Did a load of washing

Cleaned the kitchen

Feed the dogs, cats and birds

And all he says is I don't see what he does all day. But he doesn't see what I do. I never invalidate him, he makes as if I don't have any stresses and I should be grateful he's only an hour or two late on the weekends. That is literally what he said, that it's not like he's staying out until 10 every Friday like back in the day.

He just ABSOLUTELY does not understand my point. Tomorrow is Saturday and I spend the day cleaning some more (I normally do another load of washing plus vacuum and mop and dusting and all that), while he's at work. Saturday night I might cook, might not but I still have dishes to do and pets to feed.

Sunday I might take it a bit easier but I have to clean the bird cages, wash the blankets for spring, iron as many as his work clothes as I feel I can get through, cook Sunday dinner plus then feed all the pets again. Plus there is always prep work for my Company to do on Sundays, for the week so I do that too.

But I don't do anything hectic enough that warrants him coming home to help me.

***I have spoken to him time and time again about my needs. If the house gets messy he makes snarky comments and will make no effort to help. So I see a big deal in him unwinding when he always expects me to be on.