MY BESTFRIEND..

sooo..

I need some advice here.

I have been very close friends with this girl we’ll say her name is K,

K got really sick and was struggling with a lot of mental health struggles.. and I was her support through all of it. I helped her so so much and put so much energy in. She wasn’t very appreciative of this however.

I was myself going through a lot mentally.. I was diagnosed with bpd, anxiety, depression. Whilst helping her I had my own mental struggle and trauma I was reliving and moving forward from.

But I still made the efforts and beyond to be a good friend to her.

I feel like now that she is better she’s closed off from me. Doesn’t hangout with me unless it’s beneficial for her. She spends her days off with her boyfriend and he’s a great guy but he also has become closed off from me just recently.

These feelings of feeling closed off stem from me inviting K and her boyfriend to the pool they said they would be away so I said okay another time then.. I went to the pool everyday that week and the next day when I showed up they were there.

It was very awkward but I went and talked to them.

They then left after.

I asked k why she hadn’t told me she was gonna be at the pool and her response was one worded.

I just left that there however.

I feel like it’s very one sided from her and she hasn’t shown me the same support. I understand people operate differently but I just wish she would show the same support or at least half of what I showed her.

I had her over last night to do her hair and she left and didn’t thank me for doing it.

She was then very closed off with one worded answers when I brought up how she was doing and brought up how she’s feeling.. she then dropped off the conversation. I notice lately the past couple times she has been over she is quiet and goes on her phone a lot.. mainly to Snapchat her boyfriend. Or scroll through Instagram or tik tok. I really don’t know what to do about this because I feel I deserve more from a friendship but I am also a very understanding person so I want to speak to her about this and communicate how I feel but I don’t know how to do so without coming across as if I’m attacking her or blaming. So please any advice Is appreciated. Thank you!