Sahm /working dad

Ladies, I need some guidance. I’m a sahm and I’m starting to feel like I’m in an unfair family dynamic…

I’ll start off w I’m only 25 so there is so much I still have yet to learn about life, relationships, myself etc.. which is why I’m asking for help.

My partner works and I stay home w our son the only days he gets off are sat and sun but he gets off work weird hours but mainly between 12-4 depending on the routes. It’s been a struggle from the beginning that I feel he doesn’t show enough attention or priority to our son no matter what day it is and it’s been talked about a number of times w no resolve obviously..

The issue I have w continuously bringing it up is I feel as I am being selfish bc he works and is clearly tired, BUT I’m tired also? Our son is going thru the 2s and it’s been stressful (I know it’s going to be and I know I’m not alone) but he’s been going thru sleep regression screaming and throwing tantrums when he’s not getting his way, yk typical things kids do they make you wanna pull out your hair… which I deal w that’s not my issue, my issue is the fact that we are together we live together we are a family but I feel as though I’m the only one raising/taking care of our child.. if that would be the case for you wouldn’t you just choose to live by yourself rather than loathe in self pity and loneliness when your SO comes home doesn’t speak to you hardly ever unless it’s about fixing his truck and barely spends time w his child bc he falls asleep but if he comes home and has things HE had planned to do he’s wide eyed and bushy tailed ready to tackle the task or if he’s horny he sure will keep himself awake for that. But every time I’ve gone to explain these feelings or do bring it to his attention I feel like I’m bashing him as a dad or he tells me it makes him feel like I’m telling him he doesn’t love his son..

I went on a little bit more of a rant at the end but this is how my mind feels everyday bc I have no one to talk to about it and when I talk to him I feel like he doesn’t listen or really understand what and why im feeling that way.