Just found out Herpes postive married for 10 years

So my wife went for a routine check up n they check for all stds and sti during the Pap smear they even check for trich and herpes.

Every time she has had these test done it’s always negative but this time the doctor decided to do a different Herpes test and this one came up positive

Someone please explain this to me

According to the doctor the other Herpes test she been getting checks for current breakouts

But the one they did this time checks to see if she ever had a break out

They gonna say she has had it for over 9 years n some people never have a breakout

so how a test gonna come back positive for breakout but it possible to never have a breakout

Then the doctor gonna say she has had Herpes but doesn’t need medication that doesn’t make any sense

Then I asked why they chose to do a different test because we been going here for years n they said no reason

My wife doesn’t have Herpes we been

together for 10 years n that test is a lie because she never had a breakout

We already have one kid he is 3 do I need to get my son tested do my son have it

Please explain do I have Herpes too?

We been trying to get pregnant what does this mean for our kids?

Ima get a second opinion

This my wife app she told me she always gives n receives advice on here so I posted anonymous because I don’t think she ready for the world to know n she’s breaking down I don’t know what to do or say

Thank you

We are in our 30s now but in our younger days we had a few 3sums with women n men please don’t judge do I need to notify those people it was so long ago I can’t remember if it was protected