How can we work on this issue!

Me and my husband have a bad issue that “if you don’t do it I don’t do it” and tbh it’s ending with our marriage

Edit; it relates to everything it just chores

Edit #2 it’s not about chores it’s every else like I don’t kiss you because you don’t, I don’t ask for sex because you don’t, I don’t show affection because you don’t, I don’t ask for a picture together because you don’t