How my boyfriend cheated on me

i’m 22 and never had a boyfriend. This year i decided to meet up with a guy who ive known for 3 years. We made things official in a week and he pressured me to tell my family about him. Not having any experience whatsoever, i gave in and told my parents. My parents have always been strict about dating so this was a HUGE deal to me.

Now this guy, in my eyes, was wonderful. We had so much in common and he’s checked up on me from time to time within the 3 years which made me think he genuinely cared about me.

Fast forward to us dating….

In the beginning he would call me on the phone every night, plan dates, do literal relationship things. But within 2 weeks he completely changes… stops calling every night, complains about him being busy, make comments about my body, show up drunk to my house telling me how he picked up girls for his friend but not for himself (literally snitched on himself lol). Being the patient mf i am, i gave him chances and thought maybe he needs some time. He also told me how he has just come out of a relationship and is “emotionally detached” …. I had red flags everywhere.

What bothers me is that everytime i would bring up the fact that he’s been acting weird, he would say i’m overthinking it. He went to a cottage for 2 days where there were girls (i trusted him) but i found a closed condom in his bag when he came back.

The night we broke up was when he cheated on me. He was at a boat party and his friend who was also drunk took a video of my bf with a girl on his lap drinking. My bf’s friend has my brother on snap, who showed me the snap, and said “that better not be him” 🤣 it was!

I sent the video to my bf and said “this is what i was talking about all along, hope you have a great night :)” and that was it. he didnt bother to explain himself. but what he DID do was deny that he cheated.

it felt amazing to end it but now i have severe trust issues and will probably never trust another guy. it’s heartbreaking how someone can just fuck with your emotions like that.

ANYWAYS i needed a little place to vent so if you read till the end thank you🥺❤️