Cheating Again??!! 😒 🤔 💔

First of all the first time he cheated would’ve been the last time he cheated, when you take back a cheater, not only does it tell them that behavior is acceptable, but that you will tolerate whatever so you won’t be alone. So now he knows he can get away with murder and do as he pleases, and when that happens, you take back a cheater they stop respecting you, they stop appreciating you, they do the minimal because I know you’re not going anywhere. What are you tolerate will only get worse, clearly the relationship is over, once trust has been broken. Infidelity is like a piece of paper that you crumble in the palm of your hand, that paper will never be the same, the lines of deception will always be there. You will doubt everything they say, everything they do, are they really working late, are they really at the gym, are they really talking to who they say they are talking to, are they saving women’s numbers and their phones with other names, or not at all, infidelity happens because the opportunity presented itself, and they took advantage of it. It’s never a mistake or an accident, you don’t slip and fall into someone’s vagina, their clothes just happen to be off, it is a conscious decision and a choice. However they justified or live in denial about it, it’s a choice they are choosing to step outside the relationship, they are choosing this other person and their physical need over you and their family, they are saying fuck y’all I’m good. For main reasons that infidelity happens, or relationships don’t work, number one, their needs are not being met, that goes for everything, physical, emotional, financial, sexual, so they look for it elsewhere. Number two you know longer feel connected to your partner, and that goes for every level as well, number three one person is being selfish while the other person is being selfless trying to do whatever to keep the relationship going by doing the maximum while the other person does the minimal. A number four is Support, you no longer feel supported by your partner, they don’t help out with the kids, they don’t help out with the house, they don’t help out or feel support in anyway. The opportunity presented itself and they took advantage of it. You stuck around the first time, which is why they were doing it again. If you already know it’s going on, why bother. Some men like to see what they can get away with, push the envelope, have that stable home life and still have the adventure outside the home. It’s kind of understandable why it happens, she laughed at all of his jokes, she thinks he’s the best thing since the invention of sliced bread, there’s nothing complicated no fighting no arguing, it’s freely given, it’s readily available she will do what you will not do, kind of understandable. Whether it’s online, fan only, or in person, it’s still infidelity. Whether he’s on hook up apps or dating apps, unfortunately there’s more married men there are single men on dating apps. Doing things on the down low, hoping to get away with it, I know so many men who cheat on their women, on their wives, I know a guy who has been married. His second wife, he cheated on her for four years, when things didn’t work out the woman wrote her a letter explaining everything, she said if you ever do this again, I’m divorcing you. Four years later he’s cheating again, even with security cameras everywhere at the house, GPS on his vehicle, he still manages to cheat, he doesn’t near his job, he uses a vehicle that doesn’t have GPS, he’s seeing what he can get away with, his needs are not being fulfilled, she holds it over his head all the time and she has every right to, Ness and she should’ve left, but most people stay together for the sake of the kids, however the kids see it all, they know you’re unhappy, they know you’re miserable and you’re setting an example for them of what they should tolerate themselves, mommy stayed, daddy did that so I should do it too,. You are better off alone than in bad company that doesn’t appreciate your respect you or deserve you. I have so many clients who are realizing they’ve been married for 18 years and they are just sticking around for the sake of the kids. They are completely miserable, cheating happens all the time, it doesn’t matter if you own a business together, you own a home, you have children, whatever it may be, the only thing that makes a man stay as him choosing to make that decision and honor the commitment that he made to you. You already know he’s cheating, stop Tolerating the bullshit, if you are down to the fact that you have to check his phone and everything else, you already know the answer, you know he’s gonna lie, you know he’s going to cover his ass, you know he’s going to delete things, you already have the answer you already know. You don’t trust him and that’s the bottom line. Once trust has been broken, you have no reason to give it back especially when they prove to you time and time again that you shouldn’t. You deserve better, you deserve happiness, you deserve respect, you deserve love, and your kids deserve it too, you all deserve better if you have children, you are entitled to everything under the sun, if he’s cheating, tell him to go stay with her. Change the locks, call the police if things get nasty, and start the divorce or child support or whatever else in the family court, you can’t afford an attorney, woman’s domestic abuse and women’s community centers usually have pro Bono’s available. I would say them you’re clearly not happy here, why don’t you go find happiness elsewhere.