Am I being unreasonable ?

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So I’m 35w4d. Due Nov 17. I’m in grad school and currently taking a class (we don’t get a thanksgiving break). 
My husband wants host thanksgiving dinner and wants to invite some family members. Mind you, they are ALL out of state, so they’d probably be staying with us! And not all are vaccinated against Covid.
I don’t feel comfortable hosting anyone - especially - not for several days! **Double especially** after having a newborn and being in grad school AND during Covid! 
He’s kind of bummed about this because he just lost an uncle to Covid and because we may be moving across the country (military) next year so he feels it may be harder for everyone to come out then. 
BUT…I don’t want to risk my kids getting sick and I don’t feel like hosting. I will be tired enough with my class and with a newborn (plus 3 more kids) to take care of! 
Am I being unreasonable??

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I find the expectation that so soon after birth you’d be up to hosting anything like that to be the unreasonable part.

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No you are not being unreasonable! It’s unreasonable of your husband to even consider putting that kind of stress on you and risk bringing possible germs into your home.

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I think that’s totally unreasonable of your husband

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I am due the 16th, we are doing Thanksgiving at my house under the stipulation that I have to do NOTHING and noone stays with us. My brother in law is cooking and my father in law is staying at a hotel.

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Due Nov 19th and my husbands family tried pulling the “let’s do thanksgiving at your house” card and it got shot down real fast. The amount of trauma my body will have literally just gone through alone is enough to deny access to my house. Also this is a important time for mommy and baby to bond deeply as well as dad. Girl no you thinking very logical 💯

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oh hell no I 100% would not want people over for Thanksgiving. I already put my foot down and told my husband no family Thanksgiving this year. he is welcome to cook for me him and the kids but that's all.  And we will see how I'm feeling at Christmas and if I'm feeling good then we can go to the family Christmas dinner and that's when people can meet the baby.

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Why is he wanting to host so badly? Does he want to show off the baby? Is this a tradition? Do you normally host? I would try to figure out why this is important to him to help you get your point across better. Both of you deserve to be understood. I do agree it’s crazy to host an event with a newborn that’s crazy. Somehow we have to talk him down.￼

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I'm due Thanksgiving day and we're hosting, but I'm not cooking anything. Everyone is bringing the food to us, that's easier than us having to take the kids somewhere and I can go lay down in my own bed. No one is our of town though.

Am I being unreasonable ?

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