So me and my bf have been dating for 4 months but have known each other for almost a year. Our relationship is fantastic and healthy, he is so sweet.

However I feel myself getting more emotionally upset around him lately. We are (19/20) college students for context.

My bf and I were both virgins when we met and the sex is really good. (I have given one other guy head and another guy has gone down on me once prior to this relationship, but never actual intercourse) I give him head all the time and he loves it.

However, he never wants to go down on me😔

Sex really isn’t that big of a deal for me and i dont mind that he doesn’t wanna go down on me most of the time, but after awhile it’s starting to take an effect on me just bc I constantly go down on him and he’s really only made like 3 attempts in like 5 months which have all sucked.

The first time (in June) sucked and wasn’t good for him as it was in a car and we had just hung out all day so it was probably sweaty which I admit I wouldn’t want to do it either.

The second time (Aug) we were both drunk and I barely have any recollection of it which makes me mad but I know he didn’t do it that long Bc I felt sick from drinking too much.

So then last night we made a plan to do it for our anniversary and he seemed like he really wanted to please me. I had shaved tightly and everything. I was really excited. I guess the mistake was I let foreplay go on too long and I was already really wet which overwhelmed him. For the 2 minutes (or even less I’d imagine) he did it, it felt pretty good for someone who never does it and doesn’t really know how to.

But he stopped and just looked at me in my eyes with sadness and he said he just couldn’t do it. He said he didn’t really have an exact explanation for it but he just didn’t like the texture & taste of it and he wants to please me but can’t find it pleasing for himself. We looked each other in the eyes for like 5 minutes in silence and honestly my heart felt hurt and I felt like crying but I didn’t. I was really disappointed. I really don’t ask or try to pressure him into doing it but I wish he’d try harder or could just push past his thoughts. I feel completely insecure all over again and sad and mad. He said he was upset Bc he knows the dynamic is unfair and admitted he sometimes takes advantage to me constantly giving him head. I know we are both new to things though I have a little more experience so my expectations of him aren’t high, but I’d just like him to try more, i feel like it’s the only way he can feel better about it 😔

I really don’t know what to do. I was thinking of asking if he could just go right into it before I get wet but I doubt he’s going to want to for awhile.

It’s not essential in the relationship, but for once I would just like to be fully pleased 😞

Do you have any tips to help make this a better experience for both of us?