How to help a partner with depression?

Question

I don’t know what to do to help my fiancé with his depression. He is an amazing dad and a good fiancé but wants a lot more out of life. When he starts to think about where he is in life he gets really depressed and with draws. It feels like walking on egg shells because I don’t want to trigger it. I want to be able to help him and not be angry with him because know he can’t help it. He won’t see a dr 😕 be told our 9 year old that being an adult was depressing and I had to tell him that it’s not and depression is a disease that some people have. Also advice on getting our children’s understand that it’s not them or the relationship please

Answer

Book a couples therapy appointment and tell him it’s for you. Make him do it for you. Then you talk about how it’s effecting your child with a third party present. Then ease him into therapy and hopefully he changes his mind. 
Unfortunately you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to get help.

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Id make him an appointment with an online therapist. Look at your insurance plan and see if they cover mental health. Also most companies offer eap services that include mental or financial counceling.