Libido tanked 👎 how can I fix this!?

I’m fresh 27! Why is my libido sooo low. Of course it peaked in college age years, as normal. But at age 26 I started to get concerned. See, I went celibate for a while after college to focus on myself and only give goodies to someone I loved. Well, then I met my now husband and that changed. We had sex and then only went celibate together maybe 11 months b4 our marriage. When we did have sex it was nice! Then everything went down hill. His sex game 👎 his communication 👎 my self confidence 👎 comfort in my own skin 👎 my desire to have him in me👎 but then… my sex drive overall tanked. I don’t even want to masturbate. There isn’t much at all that makes me wet or turns me on. Having sex with my husband is a choice, not wild desire. And over the course of our sex life, I orgasm maybe 30-40% percent of the time. I’m very vocal about what I want and need and he is not the best at following the directions. Kinda of a mixture of selfish lover-and-somehow still a virgin type sex game. But anyway it’s not always him, most times my mind isn’t in it and I’m thinking about something else or just wanting for it to be over. Even when I initiate sex (again, by choice not sheer desire or being horny) and I’m on top, I’m ready for it to be over like 3 min in 🙄. It doesn’t take me that long if I’m in control but he always messing up the flow my moving his hips to a different beat or doing something else. He says me on top makes him cum too fast. So at that point, I’m over it. I haven’t had sex with my husband this month. How can I fix my libido? I want to enjoy sex and I can’t/ don’t. Send help plz!!! I’ll try anything except porn. That doesn’t work for me.

* EDIT* I am not in any birth control or medications and I am in overall good health. Physically fit. No prior history of whatever this is that’s happening to me. Last night I initiated sex with my husband because I wanted to WANT it. But sadly wanting to want sex and naturally occurring sexual desire is not the same thing. I did not have a great time. Nothing felt good and I wasn’t turned on at all the whole time by anything. I bought lube in advance cuz I sure want aroused on my own. We tried the “cloital alignment technique” which sounds so good on paper but maybe we did it wrong because I didn’t feel stimulated at all. Pretty sure it was wrong, it was our first attempt. Me on top want even fun. It felt good for a little bit but not orgasm good, more like drinking soup on a cool (not cold) day good. I’m starting a new job and so next month with health insurance from the job I will go to the doctor. If this happened to anyone else, what did you do to feel desire again?