Ok so since the holidays are coming up how do you all deal with in laws specifically brother-in-law and sister-in-law long story short I don't get along to well with my husband's siblings his brother wanted us to abort our baby 4 years ago never made an effort to get to know our kid and his wife is a stuck up fake person and constantly throws jabs on how she has her perfect life and couldn't imagine having 3 kids at 25 and she's so glad she planed everything in her life (our first baby was not planed at all)

His sister used to be cool but once she became a mom its like she's always trying to compete ex: will say how her 2 year old can do division and can read books ..... she can't but its always a constant well my daughter is doing this bla bla bla my mother in-law is way to pushy and wants us to all get along and I try my best but just can't keep doing it its so draining we do christmas twice with my husband's family one with all his extended family and grandparents and one with just his immediate family we only do one Christmas with my family i don't know what to do anymore help please