My daughter wants to make amends...

Guys I need advice for my 18 year old daughter. She is a senior now and did something absolutely horrible her freshman year. She went out to a party with friends. It was something some 18 year old threw for her birthday. There were lots of people there and there was this boy who was bullied (she bullied him also) and people were saying he was gay and stuff like that and it's a small religious town where that's kind of frowned upon. Well at this party a rape happened. One of the older people who were there raped that boy and I saw the video(we will get to that) where this boy can't walk and his crawling and there's blood and everyone is recording including my daughter(They recorded him trying to crawl out the house not the rape).... This boy then tried to take his life. My daughter had shared the video on social media(most kids at the party did) and police got involved and she was about to face child pornagraphy charges. She was 14 and didn't completely understand the impact of rape(NOT an excuse) she did not see a phone for over a year. To keep her record clean she was assigned to community service. She had to do it at 2 separate centers. One at a place that helps with sexual assault and one that specifically works with men who have been sexually assaulted. She decided to keep volunteering even after she completed her community service and still does to this day. So this kid is transfered back to this school after about 3 years. She saw him and wants to go and apologize and make amends and offer friendship. I think that is such a bad idea... I'm scared she may trigger him... I think she should leave this boy alone but she wants to make amends.

@Realist She's not in therapy. Even if she was I feel like it should be about the kid she hurt, not her need to make amends. Maybe I could reach out to his parents and see what they think? I just dont know if my daughter walking up to him to talk would go well.

I said she isn't in therapy rn. She was before. I understand completely what she did was horrible and I told her if peoople call her a horrible person she has to live with it. I have never defended her.

I completely understand some people may appreciate the apology but what I'm worried about is that poor boy getting triggered. And I'm sorry if I offended anyone saying she didn't understand the impact of rape. That's just what was said in court and why they chose for her to do community service instead of register as a sex offender.

Guys I need you to understand I can't make my daughter go back to therapy. She quit as soon as she turned 18. I have no say