His Wife Keeps Trying to

Look up more information about me.

Apparently, she has a friend who works with CPS she keeps asking her friend to run my information.

Quick back story.... I have a 4.5 year old daughter who's father has only seen her 4x... August 2017, March 2018 (a few days before her first birthday), March 2018 (at her birthday party, & November 2020 (the day after Thanksgiving for 1 hour)... I've offered for him to get both girls (or just his daughter) and it's always yes but doesn't show up! Stop answering calls. Or blocks me until the next day. So I've stopped offering.

Since my daughter's party, I've only spoken with this woman 1x... and that was to seek her help in getting him to start seeing his child. During that phone call she starts yelling and telling me that I don't put my child first (I made a post about it when it happened which is why I'm not going into those same details again) and blah blah blah. She then kept attacking me about my now 7 year old and why does my youngest child's father (her now husband)have to be there for her...she's not his. Just being ugly. I explained that I have sole custody of her due to domestic violence while I was pregnant with her and that (lets call him Tom) Tom has been in my oldest daughter's life since she was just over a year old. Not that I owe her anything. I ended the call and kept my distance. That was 2.5 years ago.

I recently had a call with him and he told me that she has been trying to find out information on me and trying to look up my ex. Seeking the help of her CPS friend and i can't fathom why!!

I don't get into any trouble. I am a damn good mother. My children are well taken care of. I've tried being nice to her and talking to her and she is always nasty towards me... He told me that part of the reason he isn't around is because she is still upset about my having his child.

They got married while he & I were working on being together. I had no clue about her and vice versa. During this same phone call he told me that he ended up marrying her because I moved out of the city and didn't think I'd be back. Whatever....it's the past and I've gotten over it. Shit happens. People heal and move on but how do I handle knowing that she has it out for me this badly?!

I don't talk to her, let alone him... He & I may talk once or twice a year. And, I only accept his calls so that it won't potentially bite me in the ass later if I don't.

Advice?