Sex life?

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Anyone else really struggling to keep their sex life going? I’m almost 35 weeks and my spouse and I have now went the longest we ever have without sex. It’s getting difficult in general but there isn’t a lot of interest. He says he doesn’t have the desire right now and sometimes I don’t either. But I tried yesterday and got no where. I don’t know if he’s worried about hurting the baby or what not but has anyone else been experiencing this? What did you all do to help? Or did you just decide to give up until after baby? Im starting to feel very undesirable 😔

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I havent had sex this whole pregnancy...we've done stuff but not sex...ive been feeling so huge and just feeling not able to...so yeah lol..

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My sex drive is suddenly through the roof (I’m 34+3) but Im terrified it’s going to put me into labor and my insurance is shit until December 1st so I cant have the baby until after that. I literally have sexual dreams about my husband constantly and I know he wants it but I’m trying to wait another week or so until it’s closer to the end of the month 😩

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We’ve stopped having sex as well but my husband is a very sexual person - I’ve just been too uncomfortable no matter what way we try. We have switched to just touching each other. We have some bedroom toys - different things that vibrate & such - & he’ll use that to help me get off. It’s nice to not just have to give him a BJ every time because I get a release as well. So that’s become our routine probably once a week or once every week & a half I’d say. Be open to trying new things.

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My sex life usually tanks around this time too but it’s more because of me than him and I attribute it to hormones. We have had two babies before and both times we started having sex again around 3 weeks postpartum but very infrequently and my full libido didn’t return until about 6 months postpartum!! Hormones are all over the place, breastfeeding affects nipple stimulation which is a big part of me getting turned on so it’s just to be expected in my relationship at this point, after having gone through it twice before. I still will do things for him but prob with a lot less enthusiasm and frequency.

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My last pregnancy my husband and I stopped having sex around then. I was uncomfortable because I would swell up easily, we were limited on positions and I didn't feel very sexy anyways. Sex became more of a job at that point than it was fun. We waited until about 7 weeks postpartum before having sex again. But with a newborn you're more tired than anything else🤷🏻‍♀️ (tho we definitely wanted to have sex before then, I just was scared of it hurting / the risk of infection)

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My so is like this and he confessed to me that he is very afraid of hurting the baby because of me being high risk with gestational diabetes and I always tell him how much my vagina hurts and my body he doesn’t want to put that extra stress on me I definitely know his isn’t masturbating bc I initiated like a week ago started giving him a message and 2 seconds he was already ejaculating and he was super embarrassed but he is very big so I understand him lol and besides intimacy doesn’t always mean sex could always mean cuddling watching a movie date night a massage lol

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Sex doesn't have to mean penatration. If he's up for it try some new things. Frequency goes out the window for us during this time too. But we find ways to make it interesting when it does happen. 
You should also tell him that you are feeling undesired. He probably doesn't understand how you feel.

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