My mom is racist and constantly yells at me

I’m Indian and 22 years old. I moved to Boston recently and just visited home now for a few days and one of the comments my Indian mom made was that my hair was different. I had cut it from my waist to just above my shoulder and gotten a reddish/brown tip on the bottom which I thought looked nice, plus it was blended well enough that I could have this hairstyle for work. I work at a government job for a healthcare company and have been there since January.

My mom is under the belief that I dyed my hair to look like a white person. This are her exact words, and she always thinks that if I put on makeup, or if I style my hair, then I’m trying to be another race. I have told her this so many times and my cousin had as well but I Shes so bent on this. I’ve also mEntioned that this mentality isn’t right and she can’t say things like that. I got so irritated today after work and just snapped and told her that even though she didn’t like it I did, and my friends did, and I had no complaints from my supervisor. The the topic changed to how I didn’t want to look Indian, and wanted to look Korean, and how Korean guys are my type. And she complained that I didn’t like Indian men. I have been assaulted twice in my life and both times were by Indian men, this is nothing against other Indian men but I personally don’t feel comfortable around them after those experiences, and I think that’s is understandable. My mom and dad both know about these incidents so I think it is incredibly disrespectful of my mother to question my taste in men and what not and complain that I don’t like Indian men , even after I have explained multiple times to her why I don’t. Then her next comment was “oh you probably don’t like your dad then” because he’s Indian as well.

I am so exhausted and I haven’t even been home for 24 hours yet. This is why I don’t visit home-I don’t know what to do at this point, but having to to explain everything just made me emotional and I don’t want to even be home right now. I don’t fly out back to Boston for another couple of days.